Monday, April 9, 2012

4 Days Left…

Okay, so this isn’t a happy count down blog.  It’s a complaining count down blog.  I will tell you the whole story. I can’t even remember if I have mentioned this on my blog yet or not. 

I went to the dentist probably a month ago for my every 6 month check up and cleaning.  My teeth had been fine 6 months before, but on this day I found out that I had 3 cavities.  3 in 6 months…yikes!  The dentist was sure that it was because I was pregnant.  I have definitely been a lot sicker this time, so it made sense to me.  He said they were small and shouldn’t give me any problems, so he would recommend not even fixing them until after the baby was born.  I was all for that idea because it was so uncomfortable even sitting on the chair to have them cleaned.  I left promising that I would call back after she was born to schedule to have them fixed.

Fast forward maybe 3 weeks later.  I had been sucking on tons of ice lately, probably because I was dehydrated, who knows! But my teeth started hurting on the left side.  This happened for maybe 3 days and decided to not have ice anymore. It wasn’t worth the pain.  Even after I had stopped with the ice, I still continued to have pain. It got so bad at one point that I took Tylenol and decided that I couldn’t wait 2 weeks to have them fixed.  A day or so before I had decided to have them fixed the first week after she was born because of the pain.  I couldn’t wait.  I called the dentist, got an appointment, went in and 20 minutes later walked out with no cavities.  I was actually so excited to have them fixed that I went and bought a large cup of ice from Sonic.  However, on my way to Sonic my teeth were still hurting slightly so I called back to the office to make sure that was normal.  They said that they shouldn’t be hurting, but maybe the feeling was coming back and that I should give it 24 hours.  If they were still bothering me the next day to give them a call.  I didn’t even get a first taste of my ice.  I started being in so much pain that I started shaking, broke out in a cold sweat, and really felt like I was either going to throw up or pass out.  I had to pull over.  In tears, I texted Ian and asked him to call the office for me to see what to do.  This was not normal and I would NOT wait 24 hours in that pain.  The office said to come back. I did and they did an xray to see what they were missing.  It showed nothing except a possible sinus infection.  They recommended I talk to my OB and see what I was allowed to take.  So, I went home and took Sudafed and Zyrtec  since I knew that I was allowed to take those things.  I also had a OB appointment scheduled for the next day so I figured I would wait to see what they said.   That night was terrible.  Terrible.  Ian stayed home with me the next day because I can honestly say there was no way I could take care of the boys with the pain I was having.  I went to my appointment on Tuesday, got an antibiotic and pain pill and headed home. 

Today I am on day 7 of antibiotics.  The pain isn’t going away and hasn’t really lessened.  There has been lots of tears!  I am really just frustrated about it all too.  The dentist says that they still don’t see anything.  I went back today for them to check again.  The OB says that the antibiotic should have helped if it was a sinus infection.  They just keep saying to talk to the dentist, there is nothing more they can do.  The dentist says there is nothing they can do so they are sending me to a specialist in Nashville to see if they are missing something.  They think maybe I need a root canal on that tooth.  They want me to go to Nashville tomorrow, but when the specialist called me after I left the dentist, she was concerned that since I am having the baby Friday that maybe I wouldn’t be allowed to travel. sigh. She wanted me to call her back today to let her know if I would be able to make it tomorrow.  Yeah right.  Getting my OB office to call me back before 5 is almost impossible.  Hopefully they will surprise me today.  

I know I am just rambling at this point, but I really am just frustrated.  I have several people that have asked me what all is going on, so hopefully they can read this with out me having to talk to them and explain.  It hurts too much to talk.

This definitely makes me sad, but I just haven’t even really had a chance to get excited for the arrival of our baby on Friday.  I can’t think about how sweet it will be to hold her and snuggle her.  All I can think about is how much pain I will be in for at least another week.  Thankful that as soon as she is born there will be a possibility that I can take enough medicine to find some relief.  It makes me really sad.  It makes me mad at both doctor offices for not helping more or being more concerned.  I want to say things like “let me hit your tooth with something for 3 weeks and see if you are happy to get no help”.   I am mad that my OB office won’t let me page a nurse and talk to her.  I have to wait till she calls me back at the end of the day.   I have called today to ask to see if a trip to Nashville is okay and if it is, the specialist needs faxed permission and a list of meds I can take.  I have asked what all this pain medicine and stress is doing to our baby.  I have asked to see if there is a possibility they will consider letting me have her sooner than Friday.   I am trying not to be mad about all this. It is SO hard though. 

I am glad to have Ian being so wonderful through it all.  He has taken on all responsibilities at home.  He has been wonderful.  It’s also nice to have him here reminding me of God’s grace and love during this time.  To have him praying with me and for me.  I feel like I need all the prayers I can get right now.  This is tough and not at all what I wanted our last week before the baby to be like.  I really appreciate all the prayers from all of you that already know about all this.  Please keep praying for us!  I will try to keep you all updated.

************UPDATE****************

At 4pm they finally called me back.  Earlier than 5, maybe I owe them  an apology.  I am even more frustrated than before.  I honestly feel like they don’t listen to my voicemail messages.  Their only response was that I needed to talk to my dentist.  I had said in my voice mail that I JUST came back from the dentist. Today.  They said there is nothing more they can do for me, that they think it is a tooth issue and that only a dentist can handle that.  That if the dentist feels the need to put me on more pain meds then he will need to contact them to get permission.  So my next response was, “so it’s okay for me to go to Nashville tomorrow then to see the specialist so he can find out what is going on?” and the nurse said “well, he says he doesn’t want you to go.  it’s your call though.  if you feel like you are in that much pain, you have to make that choice, but he doesn’t want you to go”  I AM in that much pain!!!!  If I am getting to the point that I am almost passing out, I am seeing little stars and sparks from the pain, then yes, I AM in that much pain!!!  I said asked her “well, if he doesn’t want me to go because he is afraid I will go into labor,  can he get me in sooner than Friday to have the csection  so I can get to Nashville sooner?”  She says “it will be harder for you to get in to Nashville after you have the csection” Me “why?”  Her: “honey, you are about to have a baby, it’s going to be hard for you to do anything after having a baby”   Me: “I KNOW how hard it is after having a baby, I have twins,  I am desperate! I will make sure I get there after I have the aby!!!”  So she asked him.  He says “if you are in that much pain, go to Nashville”.  sigh.  I seriously feel like they don’t care.  Why should they care. It’s not their teeth.  They aren’t in pain.  I think it bothers me most that no one is trying to be helpful.  I feel like they think I am just trying to get pain medicine.   I don’t even want to be dealing with this! I don’t want to be on pain medicine! I want things to be normal and I want my baby to be safe from all these meds!! 

Looks like Ian will be taking off work tomorrow to take me to the doc.  It also looks like I will be finding a new doctor’s office after I have this baby.  I don’t expect things to be perfect at any office I go to.  I just expect them to act like they care or that they are concerned.  I got none of that today. 

2 comments:

  1. Deborah, reading all of this made me tear up for you! I am so, so sorry! The last few days of pregnancy are hard and emotional enough; adding pain that makes you almost pass out doubles that burden; adding feeling that no one is on your team & willing to go the extra mile for you--I am SO sorry you are dealing with this instead of focusing on little girl's arrival. I am praying for you! When I was struggling with wanting Cate to come after multiple false starts, and feeling like God was absent, a friend told me that it might only be after her birth that I looked back and saw His Hand and His Providence -- praying that for you! Praying also that you see He is an Ever-Present Help in times of trouble!

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  2. Oh my, what a nightmare! Hope someone figures something out SOON!! Is anybody mentioning they might have pinched a nerve in your tooth when they did the fillings? There are a ton of nerves in there as you're finding out; wonder if they removed the filling (if that's even possible) and gave it a couple days if it would get better. Then maybe they could redo the filling.

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